"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by us standing in our own sunshine"
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Why I think relationships are like public transportation. Hahaha. No really. (In response to LexLuther87).
Lex asked: Why do you have such a poor opinion of relationships?
Short answer: I believe you cannot force love, or ‘grow to love’ someone.
Thanks for the question Lex!
'I know that sometimes things are so bad that no matter what practices we do or what medications we take, we can't seem to generate even that small amount of faith we need for inspiration to keep going. Then, if we can stand inside our pain awhile and wait, over time we may come to also see it as a way into the deepest parts of ourselves and then back out into the world, a vehicle for new insight into who we are and how much we need to care for ourselves and one another. If there is nothing we can do right now but wait, then, as T.S. Eliot wrote, “the faith is in the waiting.” If we can but wait, we may yet emerge from despair with the same understanding that Zen master Suzuki Roshi expressed: “Sometimes to be alive is enough.”'
- Sharon Salzberg, Faith.
"A feeling that greater possessions, no matter of what kind they may be, will of themselves bring contentment or happiness, is a misunderstanding. No person, place, or thing can give you happiness. They may give you cause for happiness and a feeling of contentment, but they Joy of Living comes from within."
I often make terrible, costly decisions mostly when my insomnia has led me to Google inconsequential facts for hours. But I must say, following Lena Dunham on Instagram and Tumblr last night are probably the greatest things I’ve done all year. I’m borderline obsessed with this woman. (Minus the borderline).
Basically I thank God for her presence in Hollywood and feel that since our worldviews collide so intensely, I must meet her. In this world or the next.
We’ve all heard the saying that ‘fear is a liar’. We’ve probably even experienced the truth of that saying in our own lives. Times when we’re so afraid to step out and reach up that we choose to stay in an uncomfortable yet familiar mess of a situation.
The other day I heard that very saying put in a different way which made me think of fear in a whole new light. The exact phrase was that ‘any decision you make out of fear is going to be the wrong decision’. Wow. As I contemplated the truth of that statement I quickly wrote it down on a post-it note and stuck it on my wall.
I’ve been re-reading that quote for a few days now and I must say it’s slowly changing my decision-making for the better. Now every time I find myself desperately running toward something that my human thinking misinterprets as solace, I stop and remember that phrase. Because the thing is, not only is fear a liar, but it can be a motivator for our lives to keep heading in the absolute wrong direction. It can blind our vision of our inherent greatness to the point that we feel undeserving of our own brilliance.
A lot of times we blame other people for standing in our way. We blame circumstances, our parents, our upbringing, hell today I found myself blaming the weather for my laziness! But really most of what it is, is just fear. It’s the lie that we’ve befriended and made room for in our minds and hearts. The voice inside that contradicts our desires and efforts to do and be better.
Maybe we should make it our mission to slowly start getting out of our own way. Gradually acknowledge the lies we’ve told ourselves about what we are capable of. That way, we might just get on the path of making bolder decisions, ones which have us heading confidently in the direction of our dreams, rather than fearfully down a cyclical path to nowhere.
"How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something, but to be someone"
It’s Sunday night, which means I’m putting my insomnia to good use and finding more beautiful music to share on here.
Gotta admit, Ed Sheeran has never been on any of my playlists, until now. Him and Christina Grimmie gave me an appropriate amount of goosebumps the first time I watched them perform this song on #TheVoice.
#Np: All Of The Stars
The contemporary economy focuses on this cycle of consumption. It doesn’t really support our efforts to find meaningful work. Today, work is a means to consume or to pay debt for consumption already indulged in. How many people do you know who really love the work they are doing? How many feel bored and alienated? How many are simply earning money to spend it on material pleasures?
Right livelihood demands that you take responsibility for making your work more meaningful."
-Roger Prichard, in Claude Whitmyer’s Mindfulness and Meaningful Work.